Some moments announce themselves as important. Others slip in quietly, wearing an ordinary evening’s clothes, only revealing their meaning much later. August 9th, 2017 didn’t feel historic at the time—but looking back now, it stands as the night my life quietly turned a corner.

Pam and I had just met a couple of weeks earlier, on July 26th after finding each other on Match.com. Prior to meeting we had texted for a couple of days and decided pretty quickly that we should meet. That first date we met at Pinstripes in Edina for a drink and some light food. I arrived before her and found a table. I can still remember to this day that dazzling smile walking towards me when she finally showed up. That night was going so well that I suggested we should extend our time together and drive over to Maynards on Lake Minnetonka. It was a beautiful night for a drive and I had brought my convertible. It was fun driving the short distance with some summer music playing and the sunshine in our faces. We talked and watched the sunset fall on Excelsior Bay while sitting on the dock. I could tell something special was there. I was unsure about her feelings at this time. She was still a little reserved. We’d managed to squeeze in one other date at Hudson, WI toward the end of July, but then life did what life always does—it got busy. Work schedules, obligations, responsibilities. Still, somewhere in those early conversations, I had mentioned my 59th birthday was coming up on August 9th. Without much fanfare, we made plans to go out to a nice restaurant that evening at Campiello Ristorante & Bar.

It was only our third date.

I remember getting ready in my apartment in Edina, putting on a nice shirt and slacks—nothing flashy, just something that felt right. I was excited to celebrate my birthday with someone. Nine years earlier when I turned 50, my wife of 17 years completely forgot my birthday. Not sure how that happens, but I digress... I drove over to the house Pam was renting in Apple Valley at the time, feeling that familiar mix of anticipation and nerves that only comes when something matters more than you’re willing to admit.

When she came out, my breath caught just a little.

She looked beautiful—effortlessly so. Dressed nicely in blue jeans and a nice blue / creme sparkly top, hair just right, smile warm and genuine. She had an amazing smile. Did I mention that? In her arms were several wrapped packages. One of them was wrapped in paper covered with tiny dog prints. That one, she told me, was from Lexi. Lexi—the little Papillon I had already started to bond with almost as quickly as I was falling for her owner. If you don't know me, dogs and I have always had an unspoken bond.

We loaded the gifts into the trunk of my BMW Z4, which, if you’ve ever seen one, doesn’t exactly boast generous storage space. It was a tight fit, but somehow we made it work. We always seem to. We drove over toward Eden Prairie, talking easily, laughing comfortably. The restaurant was busy when we arrived, and our table wasn’t quite ready. So we sat at the bar.

Again—third date. We were still learning each other’s stories. We hadn’t even kissed yet.

Someone behind the bar found out it was my birthday, and suddenly drinks arrived with cheerful enthusiasm. Nothing excessive, just enough to soften the edges a bit. As we waited, the conversation flowed. The nervousness faded. The laughter came more easily. The kind of ease that can’t be forced—only discovered.

After about 30 or 45 minutes, our table was ready. We didn’t sit across from each other like polite strangers. We sat next to each other, almost on the corner of the table, close enough that there was barely a foot between us. Close enough to feel each other’s presence. Close enough to forget the rest of the room. The food was incredible. The wine was just right. But none of that really mattered.

Pamela mattered.

We talked and laughed and shared bites of food like people who had known each other far longer than a few weeks. As the evening went on, the space between us seemed to disappear. At some point, our faces were no more than six inches apart. The restaurant faded into the background. It felt like the world had narrowed down to just the two of us.

We lingered.

And lingered.

Time did what it always does when you’re happy—it slipped away unnoticed. Eventually, something pulled us back to reality. Not an announcement. Not a gentle reminder. Vacuum cleaners. They were cleaning up. We looked around and realized we were the last two people in the entire restaurant. Chairs were being stacked. Floors were being swept. And there we were, completely oblivious, still talking, still laughing, still caught up in each other. It was almost comical. We finally left, a little sheepish, a lot content.

After the restaurant, I opened the gifts right there in the parking lot. Thoughtful. Intentional. Personal. One was a devotional by Tony Dungy. Not flashy. Not random. Something chosen with care. The kind of gift that says, I see who you are. That night didn’t come with fireworks or dramatic declarations. No grand gestures. No sweeping promises.

Just connection.

Just presence.

Just the quiet certainty that sometimes settles in your chest when something is right.

On the drive back, everything felt different. Quiet. Comfortable. Full. I dropped her off, knowing something had changed—though I didn’t yet have words for it. The next day at Fabcon, I was working with my son, and without hesitation, without exaggeration, I told him, “I just had the best date I’ve ever had in my whole life.” I meant it.

I knew that night—truly knew—that Pam and I were going to spend our lives together. Not because of what we did, or where we went, or even how long we stayed at the restaurant. But because of how it felt to simply be with her.

Best date ever.

And it wasn’t even close.