My adventure with Iowa State University began long before I ever unpacked a suitcase in Larch Hall. In fact, the very first time I “visited” the campus, I barely visited it at all. It was more of a joyride with two of my brothers— Tom, and Dave — at a time in our lives when a drive across state lines counted as both exploration and entertainment. I was young, edging into adulthood, and they were all a few steps ahead of me, showing me what freedom looked like. Early in my senior year at high school I had narrowed my college choices to the University of Minnesota in the Twin Cities, Northwestern University in Evanston, IL, the University of Wisconsin in Madison, WI, Cornell University in Ithaca, NY, and Iowa State in Ames, IA. All great engineering schools. This would be my first college trip.
Creating Your Beautiful Life
The Gift of Listening
Creating Your Beautiful Life
The Gift of Listening

In a world filled with constant noise and distractions, the gift of listening often gets lost in the shuffle. Yet, it’s one of the most powerful tools we have for fostering deep connections and nurturing healthy relationships. Listening goes beyond merely hearing words; it involves fully engaging with the speaker, understanding their perspective, and empathizing with their feelings. Let’s delve into why the gift of listening is essential and how it can transform relationships for the better.
First and foremost, active listening demonstrates respect and genuine interest in the other person. When we give our undivided attention to someone, we signal that their thoughts and emotions matter to us. This validation creates a safe space for open communication and strengthens the bond between individuals. Whether it’s a partner, friend, family member, or colleague, feeling heard and understood is fundamental to building trust and intimacy.
Moreover, active listening fosters empathy and compassion. By actively tuning in to the speaker’s words, tone, and body language, we gain insight into their experiences and emotions. This deeper understanding allows us to respond with empathy, offering support and validation. In turn, this empathetic connection deepens the relationship and cultivates a sense of belonging and mutual care.
Another significant benefit of active listening is its role in conflict resolution. When conflicts arise in relationships, communication breakdowns often exacerbate the situation. However, by practicing active listening, we can de-escalate tensions and work towards mutually satisfactory solutions. By truly understanding each other’s perspectives and concerns, conflicts become opportunities for growth and compromise rather than sources of resentment and misunderstanding.
Furthermore, active listening promotes effective problem-solving. By fully engaging with the speaker’s thoughts and ideas, we can collaboratively explore solutions and brainstorm alternatives. This collaborative approach not only strengthens the relationship but also fosters a sense of teamwork and mutual respect.
In romantic relationships, active listening is particularly crucial. Partners who actively listen to each other’s needs, desires, and concerns build a strong foundation of trust and intimacy. By prioritizing open communication and empathy, couples can navigate challenges together and grow stronger as a unit. Active listening also helps prevent misunderstandings and promotes emotional intimacy, enhancing the overall quality of the relationship.
Let’s embrace the gift of listening to nurture thriving relationships built on trust, empathy, and love.
Pamela is a faith-based life coach. She leads a holistic life transformation program for incarcerated women. She is an artist, speaker, wife, mother, friend, and lover of the environment.
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My Last Week of High School
Most people remember their last week of senior year as a blur of finals, yearbook signatures, and the thrill of freedom just beyond the edge of graduation. I always thought mine would be the same. I pictured a week full of celebration, a little bit of mischief, and a slow fade into summer before heading off to college in the fall. But life had something different in mind for me. My final week as a senior at New Lisbon High School was not about parties, pranks, or planning the future. It was about survival, responsibility, fear, hope, and a kind of growing up that most 18-year-olds never have to face.

